Hi Reader, "You can't just go out with your friends and not tell me." Have you ever said something like this to your partner, or a family member, or a close friend? Maybe the specifics are different, but the phrasing is similar: "You have to...", or "You can't just...". Or maybe the words are different, but the underlying sentiment is similar. What you're really communicating is something like "Relationships have rules and you have to follow them." *** That way of talking isn't "wrong" or...

Hey Reader, You know how some people seem to think that if they know something, then nobody else knows it? You can probably remember somebody you've met who acts like they're the fount of all knowledge. They constantly explain things to everybody around them, even if those other people clearly have the same knowledge. Well, I have the opposite issue: instead of thinking that nobody knows what I know, I tend to think that if I know something, then of course everybody else knows it too. That's...

Hey Reader, The day has finally come, and I'm excited to share this with the SETT community first: Building Intimacy - A Guide to Deeper, Stronger Relationships is live! And it'll be available at a discount to the SETT community for the next 10 days. Building Intimacy is a 6-week email course that's designed to help you develop the kind of trust, emotional safety, and intimacy you really want. Each lesson focuses on one topic in a way that I can't do in the normal newsletter. Here's what you...